Over time I recognized that His pain was much worse than mine, yet He forgave those who hurt Him. I practically begged them to to tell me what I had done wrong and how I could fix it. Forgiging, it can be hard to forgive you ex. I'll repeat, it's going to take time. He exemplified it as none other has exemplified it.
Unfortunately, or fortunately, depending on who you ask, not every relation is meant to last. It was my lifeline. As my friend Johnny constantly reminds me, if you are too busy paying attention to what is behind you, you will miss out on the blessings that are right in front of you.
Day after day in my anguish, I turned to the scriptures, seeking direction from the Spirit. So take your time, dust yourself off and remember that if you keep your head up it will all be OK. The Lord taught it.
At the end of the day I'll be the first person to admit that breakups are hard. Think of all the things you wished you did differently, and forgive yourself for not doing them. We've all heard the saying, "the easiest way to get over one person is under another. Allow yourself time to heal We all too often rush from one relationship to the next to avoid dealing with our pain.
Each of us has need of this spirit. Holding onto hurt and pain makes you bitter, and the kind of person that no one wants to be around.
Nothing is harder than realizing that the person you've invested so much time in isn't the person that you'll share the rest of your life with. As I studied the scriptures, I wrote down each attribute of Jesus Christ that I desired to develop in my own life. You go into a relationship because you see something in your ificant other that you want to be a part of.
The whole world has need of it.
That not only does a disservice to you, it does a disservice to your future ificant other. Spend sometime being single. I was in xe mids, alone to finish raising my teenagers, hold down a full-time job, and pay the mortgage. You have to remember that you aren't forgiving them because they deserve forgiveness; you are forgiving them because you deserve peace.
It's over now, so there's no point in beating yourself over the mistakes you may or may not have made. Forgive yourself When a breakup occurs, it's easy to jump to the conclusion that it is because you did something wrong. Now a few years later, I am blessed to have a good relationship with my ex-husband. Because of my gospel foundation and my desire to live righteously, I knew I had to forgive my ex-husband.
The hardest thing to do is to put yourself in your ex's shoes and try and see what they saw.
He is my rock and my foundation. I diligently penned in my notebook the hardships and trials that the Lord faced and how He overcame them. More importantly, forgive your ex because holding on to anger and pain is unhealthy. For me, the hardest part of any break up is always letting go.
It's okay though; sometimes that can be a blessing in disguise. I know it sounds oversimplified and preachy, but it's true.
I noted the things that spoke to my heart about forgiveness. For so many different reasons, relationships end and one or both parties are left wondering how to pick up the pieces. It takes a oFrgiving person to be able to do that. Forgive yourself for the harsh words that were spoken; forgive yourself for ypur things you wish you hadn't done; forgive yourself because no ones perfect and we all make mistakes.
How can scripture study help us during trials? Flrgiving a valuable lesson I learned during this intense trial. It worked! I knew it was important to not be critical of him in front of the children, but how was I going to get past those feelings of rejection youd made me want to cry out in agony? At some point in the relationship, you most likely did do something that contributed to the breakup. I was willing to move forward through my pain. I recorded teachings from the stories and parables that He shared during His mortal ministry.
Their examples can help Fofgiving with your challenges or questions. Sometimes, space and time is the only way to fix things. He was a perfect example. At the end of the day, you want to be with someone who wants to be with you, someone who appreciates you for all of your uniqueness. It's easy to get stuck in a rut of anger or despair if you're not properly prepared.
You allow yourself time to heal and then ease yourself back into your routine. Once you're able to step into your ex's shoes and see their perspective, Forgivin hopefully be able to gain some insight and use those life lessons for the next relationship. Give yourself a pat on the back, you're light years ahead of a lot of people.